Did you know that there are certain ways to react to men, that will instantly make them like you more?
Or that there are body language techniques you can use to make a man way more relaxed around you?
I've done extensive research into body language, and it has revealed some very interest information about reacting to body language.
But before I get into that, I'd like to quickly discuss the power of "similarity".
As you know, one of the keys to successful relationships in life is being similar to your partner.
We generally like people who are similar to us. We like people with similar interests, similar taste in music, and similar experiences in life.
If someone seems to be like us, then we automatically like them more.
Obviously then, anything we can do to make ourselves seem more similar to someone, will make them like us more.
And my research has revealed a great body language technique that uses this fact to make people like you more, without them even realizing it's happening!
As I mentioned above, I've studied a LOT of material on body language. Most the time it doesn't reveal anything new, but sometimes my extensive research reveals some true gems... body language secrets that make all my time spent researching worthwhile.
I found one of these body language secrets in some some very interesting studies I came across. These studies were done by many different researchers studying the effects of body posture (Some of the notable studies include a 1985 study by Marianne LaFrance and a 1990 study by Locke and Horowitz).
When you decipher through all the scientific mumbo jumbo in these studies, they reveal something which is quite fascinating...
If you match someone else's body language, they will automatically like you more!
I couldn't believe this at first when I read it, but it's true! If you alter your body language to "match", or "mirror" someone else, they automatically seem to like you more!
Now, you have to get this right.
The studies don't really mention this but you have to mirror in a specific way. I've tried this "mirroring" technique in multiple real-life situations, and there is definitely a right, and a wrong way, to mirror someone's body language.
If you do it too much, it becomes too obvious. They will think you are mimicking them, and will not be impressed! You have to do it in a way that the person you are mirroring doesn't actually notice.
My own "experiments" have shown that the best way to do it is to wait around 45 seconds, and then subtly alter my posture to suit the person I'm mirroring.
Let me give you an example...
Suppose you are talking to a man, and you are both sat at a table.
During the conversation, he leans forward, and puts his hands on the table.
When you notice this, wait about 45 seconds, and "mirror" his body language.
ie: YOU then lean forward, and put your hands on the table.
Later if he leans back, you wait around 45 seconds, and lean back as well.
If he tilts his head, you do the same... about 45 seconds later.
I think you get the idea...
Now, the timing doesn't have to be exactly 45 seconds! Don't start trying to count 45 seconds, or you will be too distracted. Just try and estimate when 30 seconds to a minute has gone past, and then mirror his movement.
This is an easy technique, but it's very powerful.
And you can use it in all sorts of situations including:
- Dating
- Arguments
- Meetings
- Interviews
It works great on men, but also works on females as well. It's an all-round useful technique, that is great for making people subconsciously like you more.
Give it a go, I'm sure you'll like the results!
Peta Fletcher is an expert on body language. She has written a book- "The Secret Body Language Guide For Women", which reveals everything any woman needs to know about body language.
You can find out more at: http://www.easybodylanguage.com
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